Adjusting to a Whole New Life
By Chuck Bomar
You may be involved on your high school campus now, but when you
become a college freshman, you are entering a world that is
bigger, tougher, and much more difficult to feel connected in.
The comforts you now know in school will be gone, at least
temporarily. Here's some advice--be prepared.
This may not be as drastic if you are attending a junior college
because your community of friends will not be as rudely
disrupted and your family likely lives close. However, when you
go away to school, you will have to find a completely different
community of friends, and for some, adjusting to college life is
tougher than others.
Your biggest sense of involvement will come in your time with
the individual friends you make. These relationships will take
some time to develop, but they will come...with roommate(s),
classmates, and those beyond. The key is finding an encouraging
community and choosing it wisely.
The Unimaginable
You might not be able to imagine life without friends you have
in high school, but this will change. There might be a few of
your high school friends that you keep in touch with, but most
you will only see at reunions. Most move on, grow up, and have a
life that doesn't include high school friends. You will probably
do the same. It's not a bad thing. It just happens.
Classmates
The friends you are closest to in college will be your friends
in life and will be around much more than your high school
friends ever were or will be. Some will have the same life
direction, major, and goals. They want what you want. You sit in
classes with them--multiple ones. You study for tests, write
papers, and present projects together. You will study at the
local coffee shop with them at 3:30 a.m. cramming for the test
at 8:00 a.m. You will know them...they will know you; you will
be in their lives and them yours.
Beyond the Classroom
People are always your point of contact in life--whether it's in
college or in finding a job after you graduate. Making new
friends is harder for some than others, but eventually your
contact with people will lead you to involvement. On the other
hand, a lack of relationships could lead to a lack of
involvement. If you want to be involved on campus, you must be
involved with people.
One of the things you will find on more major universities, and
even smaller ones, is different faith-based organizations that
meet on campus. The Christian world is often small, but key in
getting involved.
Be prepared to adjust in college--you are about to enter some
new struggles in your life. This next stage for many is by far
the toughest of their lives. There are many reasons--too many
for this article--but just know you will likely face some
depressing and lonely times. Getting involved in a ministry on
campus is a key element in not only making it through these
times, but also possibly helping you dodge some of the tough
times.
There are many great Christian campus ministries on college
campuses. Here are some thoughts on them that are worth thinking
through.
- They will provide a community of friends that can be very
healthy. These people can serve as a great source of
accountability and connection. Some could be your best friends
that help you through tough times.
- You will be exposed to
people with completely different backgrounds--church and
family--and view things entirely different than you. You will
start to see different ways of viewing things in which you were
not previously aware. You will be forced to think through why
you believe what you believe--possibly for the first time in
your life.
- Most of these ministries have a mission on campus.
This is great for you because your tendency may be to lose your
sense of mission. You will be focused on yourself, your
homework, and your social life and can easily lose sight of the
fact that people need to know what you know--the gospel. These
ministries can really encourage you to stay strong in this area.
It is vital that you get involved on your campus. This is the
place that God has placed you...embrace it with everything you
have. Despite coming struggles, you are about to enter a great
time in your life! Meet people. Get involved. Cause waves. Make
a dent. Charge it.
Chuck Bomar's
passion for truth, people, and teaching has kept
him in ministry for the past ten years. He chairs the student
ministry department at Eternity Bible College and is pastor of
student ministries at Cornerstone Community Church in Simi
Valley, California, where he founded an explosive, college
ministry.
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